As a divorce lawyer, I work with a lot of women who are stepping into a new found freedom. As soon as they are free of family court drama, they are eager to start their lives as single, independent women. Some are ready to start dating again while others are already looking at a new long-term relationship. I give every single one of them a crucial piece of advice: Background check every single person you date.
The truth is that no one can ever be truly prepared for everything this woman had to deal with. Life is all about throwing wrenches in our plans and throwing us for loops. That being said, there are some things that may have saved her from going as far down the hole as she did.
I recently decided to get a new car. I started the process just like I recommend clients shop for a lawyer – I did my research, knew exactly what I needed, and asked questions of experts to make sure I understood the specifics. Then came the hard part: getting a good price.
While I may be a lawyer, I am also human, and I understand how difficult it is to budget for something when you don’t actually know how much it will cost. While you may not be able to control the total expense, you can make sure you are informed about what exactly your lawyer will bill you for.
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I know exactly what she means: her life, her kids, and her future potential are her primary focus points. I get that. As a lawyer, however, I have to be honest when I tell you that family court is very much about the money, and if you do not pay attention to it, you may end up losing.
She said, “I just feel so discouraged. I need help, but I cannot afford to pay what everyone is asking for a lawyer.”
“Let’s talk,” I said, “I’m sure we can get you the help you need.”
Everyone talks about lawyers winning and losing cases.
When you hire a lawyer, though, who defines what constitutes a “win?”
While I understand that good legal services do not come cheap, it does not have to be out of reach. The misconceptions of how much it costs (and should cost) to get divorced deter people from creating the lives they want without ever actually knowing the truth.
I was recently being interviewed by a potential client in a messy child custody case. She said to me, “I need somebody that will help me fight for my babies like they were their own.”
My response to her was, “I am not your best advocate.”